One day while perusing Twitter I came across this question from Slimthe78er, “Is it true that some things are just not to be overstood but just to go by your true intuitive energy?” Impulsively, I tried to answer. I rattled and racked my brain, for some reason I couldn’t phrase it properly. So, I slept on it, gathered my thoughts and this came to me, “We are not made to understand everything, but through intuition we are blessed to understand what is truly meant for us to experience.” He humbly thanked me for the response. From there we started building. The one hundred forty character parameters of the direct message box housed our thoughts. The course of this ongoing conversation took unexpected turns and revealed two people’s views on varying subjects.
When I turned thirty, I had what I’d describe as a re-birth, a new awakening. “I lost that sense of insecurity that plagues you in your youth. My self awareness was heightened. I relaxed into who I truly am.” He admitted to being a late bloomer but, expressed, “I have learned to embrace humility, humbleness, & knowing the more you know, the more there is to learn.” I piggybacked his truth with, “Humility has been the most rewarding gift. It opens the door to acceptance, which welcomes gratitude.”
In discussing some of the mediums I’m looking to take my poetry, he relieved that he is working on a project titled, G.I.R.L, an acronym for Getting In Relationships that Last. When asked his take on relationships, he offered, “My view is that times are changing for men and women. Relationships are hard because lots of us are stuck on old ways.” I easily agreed with the truth of that statement and replied, “With relationships there are compromises that have to be made. Some people aren't able to see pass their needs for a greater oneness.” With those virtual head nods exchanged, he asked, “Would you say that leaning towards woman or men. Who do you think got worse?” To which I retorted, “Women got worse, with the misguided “Independent” movement. Men reacted to the idea of them being quintessentially rejected by becoming visibly absent. It further allowed men to be unaccountable / irresponsible. You have women saying, I don’t need a man & men saying okay. Honestly, the actions of some women ruined the way men view all of us.”
Most of our conversations, opened with a simple question, “What’s the word?” When sincerity was offered for consumption, we ate of it gracefully. In relation, he described it as, “The all honest, the self evident true feeling, this is one of the most pure ways of true expression. Freedom from deceit...”, while I metaphorically replied, “Sincerity & honesty are married. Humility is their first born. There are no fakes in this family.”
After walking out off the direct message door the discussions ran the full gambit of life. We touched on child rearing, uplifting our youth, slavery, generational gaps, having basements and backyards with an effortless openness. We questioned each others ideas and expounding on shared notions.
Through these conversations I found that men and women can have kindred conversations. We can encourage, learn from and aid each other. That while we think and experience things completely different we have commonalities that bridge us. With all the talk of what’s wrong between the genders, these conversations have been a welcomed escape. I’m reminded that while the broad strokes of who we are as men and women are being painted, there are some of us that consciously choose to draw outside lines.
Peace and blessings,
Mykisha
Slimthe78er is a music producer and father based in the DC area.
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